I’ve had sex with some really fucking stupid people
does anyone else have “the chair”
My “yes”s do not extend to every question. If you want to touch me, you still have to ask. You are not given the inarguable right just because I have agreed to go to dinner. No, I don’t have to thank you by letting you unbutton my jeans. No, I am not a “tease” because I laughed loudly at your jokes and, when you talked about missing your dad, reached across the table to touch your hand. I am not in your debt because you did not force me to go home with you after I drank three glasses of wine. I do not have to thank you because you did not take advantage of me. If I do not call you back, you do not have to insult me to your friends. I am not stupid, I am not a bitch, I am not a slut, I am not here just to boost your ego. The reason girls do not call you back is not because you are “too nice.” It is not because “girls like jerks.” It is because you’ve branded yourself as a “nice guy,” even though expecting affection for being polite makes you anything but.
— To The Nice Guy Who Invited Me To Dinner | Lora Mathis (via lora-mathis)
…I was not myself for weeks yet nobody noticed.